Hard to change your thinking?

When you older you get, the harder you absorb? Just like when older people read self improvement books they will not be able to absorb or adopt that theory they read easier compare to those young teenagers or young adults. As day by day I am growing up, I feel, sense, think and reason this symptom I have. Here are a few points which I felt for myself.

-- :: Thinking :: --
It is one of the key factor, it has been fixed for adults, because they have understand and adopt a way of life which they have chose, in another words you can called it a culture. When they start reading self help book, it is just to enforce that way of life they have, they usually adsorb very little new ideas.

For teenagers and young adults, they still searching a way of life and the directions which they want to walk, so reading management books or self help books does help them, due to their willingness to seek help and open up.


-- :: Pride :: --
It is also one of the key factor, as people gets older and older, they tends to be more experience (in their ways), then we felt that we can lead and understand things (in our own ways) better than the younger ones. Due to the seniority on the age, we think that the young ones are nobody and their idea is wrong, we tend not to absorb their thinking. I am saying that the adults is not wrong, they know what is right and what is wrong better, because they don’t do it in impulse, and by the way they have gone through it in life and understand what is the consequences of doing it in this way. I am saying that that kind of pride can stop them from adsorbing new ideas and thinking.

-- :: Comfortable :: --
Imagine you have been having that kind of thinking and principle in life for 20 years. You think that you can change it just by reading a book, or just by someone saying something different which you think it might be correct and your way of life is wrong. It can just register into your mind for a while, but you will not internalize it because you are so comfortable in your way of life , you way of living and that is really difficult to change, unless you really determine to make it works and set a pattern to correct the current patterns of thinking you have.

-- :: Time :: --
Time can be a factor, seem as adult we got so many things to do and do you think we have time to change and internalize the things which we read? I guess not because changes takes time, it takes more time in your brain to resist the old ways you have, it takes time to try this method of doing things and the new response you get. Unless you are wiling to sacrifice your time else you will not change.



Ultimately what I want to achieve in this posting is to let adults know that in order to change or to restructure their life by reading self help books and trying to understand why they kept falling in the vicious cycle of the bad habits again and again. Here are just 4 little points to ponder and think of, and at the same time learn from the youth and understand why they can learn faster than us and yet we are older and have more information in our mind. Is because we are more structured in thinking and they are less structured, and therefore they are more willing to seek the best way to structure their way of life and thinking.